Can I start by saying that I hate labelling and i'm only using the term so that people know what i'm talking about.

This is a follow on thread from https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...ml#post2098790 I got a bit off topic and after a few other people said they were haivng similar problems I thought i'd start a new thread.

My DD1 is having some problems. She cries a lot and seems miserable most of the time. She gets very defensive and seems to feel like she is really hard done by all the time. She used to be such a happy little girl and for a while now she has become whiney and, I hate to say it but, pretty much a victim. As I put in the other thread if she wants something she'll come up to me and ask in a really defeatest voice so i'll just tell her to stop and change the way she's speaking and it seems like she just snaps out of it and asks normally. But her initial way of asking for anything is to whine and I can't stand it!

I think a lot of it is to do with attention and I am trying now to give her a lot more. Tonihgt the kids went to their Dads and I kept her home and we had a girly night. When I put her to bed I asked her if she had fun and she said yes but looked so sad, so I asked her if she was happy and why didn't she smile, so she gave me a smile but I hate having to ask for it!

The whole night I kept telling her how special she is and how much I love her.

Has anyone had this? Gone through this? Struggling with this? Do you just have to give them extra attention? I really want her to snap out of it because as awful as it sounds I don't want her to grown up with a "victim" outlook on liife, I want her to be positive and confident.

Any advice would be great! Or if you're struggling to then hopefully we can all get some advice!

TIA x