Thankyou all for your replies and suggestions.
I hvaen't had the conversation yet as I haven't seen or spoken to MIL since the last incident. I did go to the clinic the other day though and Olive is in the top percentiles for her height, weight and HC so I must be doing something right! The nurse said it sounds as though she has the perfect diet so basically i'm going to use this to broach the subject I think. She also said that I should wait until 9mths before reintroducing foods that Olive had reactions to. I'm also planning on asking what exactly was in the chicken vege thing but basically i'm chucking it as I don't trust her! That may sound extreme but i'm still pretty cranky.
DH wants me to say something to her but as he wasn't home this time he feels that I should do it. I'm really nervous as I hate confrontation but hopefully if I approach the subject tactfully she won't react to badly and if she does then too bad. I'm pretty PO that he won't stand up to her though.
Rivlas - Thanks for your perspective and suggestions. I did leave the food(some avocado and spelt rusk) that I wanted Olive to be fed the second time she visited when I wasn't at home but she still fed her the banana and pineapple and made the comment about getting into trouble.
She doesn't come over all that often thankgod but I really hope we sort this out because ATM there is no way I want to leave Olive in her care without me being there.
Thanks again.
I would be FURIOUS and would definitely throw the food out, I wouldn't trust her for a second. What she has done is a total breach of trust. How dare she. I have a DD with allergies and NO ONE and I mean no one, should play about with allergies. What if she reacted badly to something she's feeding her, would she know what to do?
Good luck, I feel for you, it's a hard thing to bring up , hope it all works out for you xoxo
TBH, this is why I never let my mother babysit DS because she wanted to do this. Get a better babysitter and explain it's because you just can't trust her. Maybe if she earns your trust then you'll consider letting her have time alone with Olive, but not now.
Then again, we have allergies too so I'm really strict with food.
Yeah, go with the MCHN angle only a bit thicker with out telling a lie. Especially with the allergies.
Also say when you speak to her that you are not being disreapectful but you need to consider your DD's well being before anything.
Also ask her that if she knows she is feeding her the wrong foods why is she doing it? If she cannot come up with a good answer then tell her that until you can trust her to feed Olive as you have asked you will not be leaving her in her care. it's then out in the open and it's also up to her how she reacts.
All the best.
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