Thanks girls. I cant express how much I appreciate the time you're taking to sit and write all this.

Lulu - I know you're not trying to minimise anything and I have found great comfort in your words that a lot of people do it. Thank you for all your helpful advice.

MG - Thank you so much for all that info from a professionals perspective. I'm pretty sure she is responsible. I know her ex-boyfriend genuinely did/does love her so I doubt he will allow anything to harm her. She has also been best friends with her friend since they were 5 years old so I doubt that either of them would allow anything bad to happen. I also know for a fact that she doesnt mix drugs with alcohol so it sounds like she is being careful.

i was just bought up with the message that everyone who does drugs dies! Quite the scare tactic which worked for me. Like I said, it isnt a world I'm involved in so am pretty naive about the whole thing. But, you have all alleviated my fears a little. She has made a lot of comments lately about how her life sucks and she needs to focus a bit more and start acting her age so maybe now is a good time to confront her....

Thank you all so much again.