My sister's fiance has always been Uncle to Liebs. Well, since we knew he was a long-term boyfriend - Liebs didn't meet him much before that though. My cousins are aunties and uncles, their partners (now spouses in many cases) are aunties and uncles too. We're family! All my cousins' children are called DS's cousins. (Some of my cousins do this too, others don't: the ones that don't have siblings with children though!)
My husband's brother's children are his niece and nephew. Niece is being shaped up to be a right madam and Nephew is very "naughty" but only from lack of attention. I do not get to see them often, despite requesting it, and cannot change the people they are set to become if this treatment continues and I don't like that. I don't want to be associated with their upbringing. That's really mean. I don't disown them to their faces or to those who know me IRL, but just to DH and on here I usually call them his niece and nephew.
I am pretty sure it has more to do with the relationship you have with the kids than when you joined the family...
My brothers Wife wasnt his wife when 3 of my kids came along but she is their Aunty.. ( or uncle if you ask DD lol) my sisters partner also wasnt there but he is in NO way my kids Uncle lol
My Dh's Nieces are my nieces too... I would never think that they were not my nieces just cause they are blood related to him iykwim.
I guess what im trying to say is that they are your Nieces/ nephews lol
Scott has four brothers (3 he hasn't seen since he was little), at least one of whom has a son, and none of whom we see regularly. I hardly consider them my brothers-in-law, let alone that I'm their kids' aunty. Scott's only met the one "definite nephew" once, and he's about five now.
If his sister were to have a child, I suppose I would leave it up to her to decide whether I'm considered an aunty or not. She tries to keep in contact fairly regularly, although I'm ignoring her at the moment (I'd rather not talk about it), so I assume she'd want her kids to call me Aunty Teni.
My brothers' kids, on the other hand, are definitely going to consider Scott an uncle. He's much closer to them than he is his own siblings, and we come as a package deal
This used to really upset me as a kid- mum's brother's wives all introduced me as "XYZ's niece" never my niece. I don't know why it hurt but it did! I call my brothers DD's and DH's sister's DS my nieces and nephew, I have never differentiated between them. I guess cause DH's sis had her only bub 2 yrs ago so I had been in the family a long time too makes a difference.
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