once you know your family is complete...

[Olive]

how do you deal with others around you having kids???

we think we've finished having kids, (heart says yes head says no more) but i know when family start having kids i know i'll feel sad/jealous etc... my SIL is pregnant but other than that my girls are the only grandkids on both sides, i felt jealous when they announced they were pregnant, jealous taht i dont get to go through pregnancy and birth again.
does/will it get easier??

[Ginger]

i know exactly what you mean.
we are finished too, but whenever we talk about the possibility that bil and sil will have kids soon, i get soooo jealous! especially cos wer'e conviced they'll have a girl! i mean, i'll be thrilled for them...and i can't wait to share it all with them, but i still get jealous.

[Salsa]

We havent finished yet but probably will in another year or 2. Meanwhile most of our friends are only just getting married or not even in long term relationships yet... which means they will be starting their families once our youngest is probably about to start school. It makes me sad, and Im sure I will be a bit envious at the time but such is the way our lives have worked out. Anyway, you never know what might happen. I know plenty of families who had 'finished' only to have an extra edition turn up later on

[Visitor7]

We are so undecided about this. Heath is happy with just 2, me, I'd love to have 4. Financially, we're better to stick with just 2, but my head and my heart keeps saying MORE, MORE! I get so jealous whenever I see someone pregnant, I would love to give birth again. My sister is about 10 weeks now, and so I wish that could be me going through it again.
Sorry, didn't answer your question though.

[Olive]

thanks everyone, glad its not just me! i am more and more content with my two girls and to be honest if we did have another we'd want another girl!

ginger, i think they'll have boys too

salsa i do admit when friends are just starting i think we'll past all the baby stuff, kids will be more independant and we can look forward to bigger things like holidays etc..

jodi were the same, finacially its easier with just two

[Salsa]

yea thats right! We will be going on holidays and they`ll be stuck at home with nappies and day sleeps

[Olive]

yep and i can go out and have a few drinks when they cant

[Ginger]

it's weird though, cos i want another boy too, not a girl.....but then i get jealous of other people having girls....so odd!

[Trillian]

I used to feel that pang of jealousy even when I was inbetween pg's and babies LOL. I honestly don't know if it ever goes away, even if you are happy and complete with the number you have, or that you know you are done having babies for other reasons (financial etc) I think mainly because you know what an amazing time of your life it is to first be pg and then to give birth kwim?