I have a VERY over the top MIL. I do get along with her but then there are times when I have to give it a rest from her as she's too full on.

She came to one of my OB visits as she was the only one that could drive me there. He did a quick U/S every visit on his machine and all she asked were stupid questions like, so does it look like a girl or a boy? HELLO we were not finding out for a reason. She was stinging for a girl as she had 3 boys herself and I have 4 brothers so there were no real girls around. So my advice, don't take her to the U/S, they get too excited. Especially if you don't know what your having or you want to find out and keep it a secret.

When DD was born, we had written in our birthing plan that we wouldn't call anyone till I'd had bubs. We ended up calling quite a few people when I got to hospital as we were so excited.... BAD MOVE... I had a 9 hour labour and for those 9 hours my MIL, FIL and my mother (who I didn't mind being around) wandered the hospital grounds, came in every so often. After I'd given birth I ended up with about 12 family members in the birthing suite which was TOO full on. Oh my god, never again, I looked like I'd been hit by a truck, I was still quite out of it after the peth, I'd lost a fair bit of blood too so I felt like cra*p, they then passed DD around, all I could smell was cigarette smoke on a few of them and I was getting so anxious and paraniod about it all, I burst into tears... that worked, it got them all out! The next night they all came charging into my room again, passed her round and left me with a screaming newborn.

After DD was born I got a text from MIL a few days later saying "I have the baby blues", I couldn't believe it, who was the one that had the baby here. :mad: After that she certainley had her moments, I've had the comments like "where's my baby", or "she doesn't cry like that with me", or when I went back to work one day a week and she'd mind her, I'd get to her place stinging to hold my baby and she'd say "you can't have her" AHHHHHH :mad:

I had DS in another town (we moved away) so we had no one to disturb us! SOOOOOOO much better, then we controlled who could visit etc.

I still have the odd MIL issue. She spoils DD rotten which is the next issue I'm dealing with. She gives her so many lollies and cakes and junk as she's scared that DD might reject her some day. Funny thing is when MIL visits now, DD whinges ALL day as she knows she'll get something like a cake for doing so, she's never said "No' to her. She also said to me she wouldn't know what she would have done if I had another girl as she doesn't think she'd love her the same. :mad: Gee that made me feel great!


My advice, say exactly what you want and ask her to respect your wishes.
If you MIL is like this now, you'll most likely have scenarios like I've had after the birth of your baby so get in early and tell her exactly how it is.

Gosh i could write all day here, better leave some room for others!