Should I just not reply or is that too rude?

[Kamarine]

What I a getting at is if they already just send eggs and cards, then why the desire to impede that now just because FJ ha moved?
Whatever reasons exist to not have much to do with them herself, they have never interfered with the relationship the grandparents have has with their great grandchildren. So why change that now, especially if the relationship consists of practically only 'holiday contact' anyway? If the kids have another couple of birthday cards, the experience of knowing there are 2 more people in the world who care about them, why stop that?
I wasn't passing judgement on the veracity of FJ's reasons themselves to not care to much for them herself itms.

I know you weren't. I was just saying that maybe there is a reason that she wants to interfere in the relationship.

As for timing sometimes you need an opportunity to do it.

I agree with you but not knowing the reasons it's easier to have two sides, both right.

I didn't mean for it to be an attack at you.

[AndiE]

I can understand why you're not particularly interested in them sending stuff to the kids if there is little relationship there. I do wonder though if this is their way of contributing something toward your family given the lack of overall relationship, kwim? Having said that - you know them and the history, I don't. You know what's best for your family.

Alternatively, if them having your address is an issue, could you either get a post box or get stuff sent to your local post office for pick-up (they could notify you of anything sent via fb)?