I have 3 kids already to an ex. My partner and I are now expecting our first. I know that my kids will have some form of 'rejection' or 'dislike' of this new person in their lives.

How do I help them to understand and accept a new baby into their lives? They know about the baby, that the baby is coming next year, that the baby will always stay with me even when they go back to dads house, that I will still love them just as much and want them involved.

I just don't want them to feel left out or replaced, or it to turn negative when they go to their dads house and the baby stays with me 24/7.

Is there a way to help them understand the bigger picture? Books? Counseling?

I know it's still early days, but I want to get onto it sooner rather then later just in case we hit problems.

My eldest is 6 and youngest is 3... So still little themselves. My ex and I have 50/50 shared care.