I can't vote yet, but there's no option for me! I choose not to smack (even when DS is grabbing me, I ask him to let go politely before removing his hand, then thanking him - he is so clever he doesn't need me to remove the hand any more, he does it himself), however if DS does something dangerous that could get him killed (running away from me near a road... not that he'll ever have the chance to!) then I will give him a smack bum - he didn't listen to me so got hurt. My giving him a smack is a lot better than a car giving him a smack. I am hoping that he will always listen and I'll always prevent those things so will never need to smack though! I won't smack because he is playing with his toys and not helping me, however. Only in life-or-death situations when he doesn't listen to my verbal warnings and is old enough to understand these warnings.