I'm the first out of my friends to even have kids Kim!! My sis only has two and she thinks I'm mad for even contemplating 3!!!
My new DS has been a dream - it's his big sis who is causing us dramas. I kind of think if we did have a 3rd, DD would love being an actual "big sister" and playing with/looking after DS while I tended to #3. At the moment, she really doesn't get it.
As you can see I have 3 boys, my first 2 were 16 months apart and I think that this on its own was quite challenging in its own way. I always knew that I wanted 3 children but for the sake of my marriage and sanity I couldn't do such another close age gap.
There is nearly 2 1/2 years between my 2nd and 3rd sons which I found worked really well as the older 2 were at an age that they were generally playing together nicely so didn't require as much indvidual attention.
The thing I have found the hardest going from 2 to 3 is the amount of washing, I just can't seem to keep on top of washing, folding, ironing putting it away etc it seems never ending. Otherwise it has all been good.
I have found its not much different having 1,2 or 3 kids ,mine are 2 yrs apart and it seems to have been much the same each time we have added to the brood that I am contemplating number 4. I love how the 2 older kids can play while I look after bubs and they dob on each other when one is doing something wrong while i am distracted with bubs ,very helpful when dd3 is writing on the walls lol. The biggest change I have noticed from going to 2-3 is the amount of food they consume ,i have never seen a loaf of bread go so quick!
Last edited by Lulu 2; October 1st, 2010 at 10:00 PM.
i found 1 - 2 hard for the first few months but then got used to being organised and that was fine. I found 2 - 3 fine until #3 got mobile and then it became really hard. There is 18 months between my first 2 (boys) and then 2 years between 2 and 3. Both #1 and #3 are very very challenging (#1 not so much now but for first 4 1/2 years he was a nightmare :-) ) so some days i think i should have stayed at 2, but then i wouldn't have my dd who i am so close too so i never actually regret it - just have "if id' stopped at 2 life would be so easy now" moments :-). 3 does bring extra challenges in the whole car thing - having 3 in car seats and finding cars big enough may be an issue. Also being outnumbered by kids meaning someone always has to 'share' mummy or daddy. I think if i knew what i knew now i would still go for 3 as my dd is more than worth it.
good luck with your decision making - it's such a personal thing only you can decide what's best for you and you will know in your heart what is right.
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