Thanks Sherie - I'm just wondering because I don't have much to do with other 4yr olds and we have been away from the usual family viewfinder since he was 6wks old. When we lived in Brissie they used to always make rude comments about other family members kids and what they should be doing/eating/acting like and I just wanted to know If I would need to be on the defensive more so than not. I thin he is doing fab but he is an only child and spoilt rotten :-)