What is this feeling that i cant describe??

[MantaRay]

hun. The big milestones in our children's lives do tend to bring on mixed feelings. While we are pleased to see each new step towards independence and delight in seeing the wonderful people they are becoming, it is also sad to acknowledge that our babies are growing up and moving closer to no longer needing us much. My boys are a long way off from puberty, but I can only imagine that that will be one of the hugely emotional moments in my life as a mum. They will be nearing the end of their childhood and it will be time to trust that I have done all I can to teach them how to be responsible adults. It's a really big step for them and us!!

I wish you all the best with this next phase in your mothering journey.

[Glamourcide]

... As long as you don't go getting on the phone to every female relative you and DD share to tell them the 'good' news!! My mum did that to me (oh, and after she called my nanna and aunties, she went all over town bragging to her workmates and 'friends' she bumped into at the shops, wtf?!) and it was HUMILIATING. Seriously, the bleeding bit I could handle. Having the whole town know exactly which day I started getting my period, was the part that sucked.
I think you feel weird because hey, your baby girl is growing up! I find it really scary that girls these days are starting to get AF at such young ages - I personally was nearly 15 when mine started, and had been convinced for two years that I was a complete freak because all my friends had theirs and there must be something wrong with me. (And that made it worse when my mother told everyone about it, I was a 'late bloomer', you know?)

But yeah, I think the weird feeling you're experiencing is mostly just grappling with the fact that your little girl is growing up... the thought of our kids being able to make their own kids is frightening when they've finished school and working, let alone when they're not even out of primary school yet!! It sounds like she's coping okay with everything, which is good My only advice would be to keep the lines of communication open, check in to make sure she's dealing with the inevitable cramps and mess alright, and try not to feel bad about 'missing' this milestone - I'm sure your DD isn't at all worried that you weren't 'there' to help her, if she was prepared and aware of what was happening, she should be fine
*hugs* Welcome to puberty, eek!!!

[Fleur]

squidipa

My DD was 10, almost 11, and yes it can be very confronting to realise that your daughter is growing up.

You sound like you have done a great job preparing her for this, no matter that you weren't there with her, the important thing is that she was prepared & didn't freak out.

I think that realising that she is entering a new phase of her life can be hard to deal with, it's real concrete evidence that she is growing up...as you said, she can make babies now...and yet she is too young for that! she is in that strange place where she is still a child but growing into an adult.

If puberty marked a difficult time in your life it could be that you are afraid of what this will bring for her? Trust in what you have given her so far, and that her life journey will be hers... she sounds very 'together' thanks to you, I'm sure she will be fine

[squidipa]

thank you everyone for explaining my feelings, i felt lost but feeling a bit more grounded now ty xoxo