my parents were non-affectionate, only communicated by arguing/being violent, and i spent my childhood hiding from them, escaping reality by reading books, because being around them, meant bad things. I have no desire to repeat any of their behaviours with my child. My parents gave me a template of "what NOT to do" to your children.

My fondest memory as a child, is spending time with the school librarian, the girl guide leader, the sunday school teacher, adults i felt safe with.