Why do you want more Children?

[mumma_lion]

I would like to have another baby but in the same breath I don’t want to commit to by saying when we will start trying.
I have been asked why do I want more children? I am not sure how to answer this.
Do you need a reason why?
I am very confused why can’t I make a simply YES or NO decision and stick by it.
I already have 2 kids DD9 and DS3.
Please help me to make sense out of this.

[Danielle_NZ]

How about the simple fact that at this stage you do not think that your family is complete... that's how I feel... tomorrow I may feel differently ;-)

[tellytubby]

I'm very much the same Mumma Lion. Some days I can't wait to TTC # 3, other days I honestly think 2 is the perfect number.
In my heart I know I'm not finished, but I'm not ready to commit to "having one right now", iykwim.
It's a huge thing, and I think its great to take your time and make sure you and your other family members are ready.

[Arimeh]

I didn't feel complete after #3.

I now feel my family is complete and I'm glad I took the chance to have another. I'll never have to wonder about "what if..." as I grow older

[tellytubby]

I now feel my family is complete and I'm glad I took the chance to have another. I'll never have to wonder about "what if..." as I grow older

Yes this is a huge thing for me too
I know if I don't have another, it will be something I will regret later in life.
Whereas, you'll never regret having another child

[BeautifulMadness]

i dont feel my family is complete...i have 2 fantastic boys...but two just doesnt feel complete...im not getting younger and its something i dont wanna say i regret not having another child

[Liz]

Probably the incomplete feeling more than anything... Which to me is different from cluckiness.. Think I'll always cluck over new babies Definitely feels like this is the last tho. Going to enjoy babyhood one more time and then enjoy the family growing up.

Kim - I was starting to feel the same the longer it took to conceive. The age gap getting wider and wider was making me feel that I would no longer be gutted if it didn't happen.. But at the same time I had to keep trying. Not sure if I would have eventually stopped.. I guess I would have reached a point where I didn't want to be tied to a baby while the other kids were growing up. Who knows.

[LuluHB]

I just didn't feel as if we were done - that we had more love to give. I also looked at my two incredible, amazing DDs running around (4 and 3 next month) and realised how amazing it would be to have more little people like that around us.

We thought for a long, long, long time before committing to TTC again. I still have moments where I wonder if we're crazy, but I believe that we will never regret having another child but that in time I could regret NOT trying for another child.

[berrme]

I liked having siblings and I figure my kids will too. I also love the idea of having lots of kids around me as I get old... then hopefully lots of grandchildren.

I know exactly how you feel though. I haven't even had this bub yet and people are already asking if I will have another. I am not decided either way... love the idea of a 4th but don't know whether I like the idea enough to actually get pregnant and do the baby thing again. I knew for sure that I wanted number 3, just knew I wasn't finished. I really hope my decision becomes clear once I am officially a mum of 3, I don't like sitting on the fence.

[mumma_lion]

Thanks for all the replies, I know what I want to do now. I am just worried about how "Am i going to handle it all" Hubby works 70 + hours a week, I have a business at home to run, 2 children (dd goes to school) (ds stays at home with me) I feel bad if I talk about putting him in child care even if it is for only a few hours. Also have the responsability for everything at home plus I have to crazy, dogs that if they don't get walked 2 times a day they go ferral.

How does everyone else juggle things and not lose their minds.

[nickle730]

I think I'm addicted to pregnancy, babies and kidlets... I have three and would happily keep going back for more! I watch the Duggars' (you know, that family with 20-something kids) and I think, 'yeah... I could do that!' DH is not so sure!!

Life is a juggling act, but things have a way of sorting themselves out. Figure out what your priorities are, what they need to be, and work from there.

Good luck!