Ok, just wanting a general idea of what your 4yo can do as I don't know if I am expecting too much or too little of DS and as we are about to venture back into the world of in law, grandparents and extended family (big month long holiday with family) I want to be prepared for the comments I am going to cop.

Alrighty DS can dress himself (ie jocks, shorts, t-shirt, shoes) but is easily distracted and often gets his jocks on back-to-front and shoes on the wrong feet. We haven't even attempted buttons just because we don't own any clothes with buttons

Eating - he can use a knife and fork but often doesn't and is pretty unco with them, he doesn't eat much at one and prefers small meals often and dislikes anything that is orange or green.

General - seat belt in the car. He tries hard but can't really get to it, I think it's the style of booster seat we have

So what is normal for Four yo and can you give me any hints for working on any of these things