Liking your FS.. Is it important?

[tiggerlinda]

Glad to hear that Dee

[farmgirl77]

Hi Dee,
Good luck with your upcoming appointment.

For me I agree with the others, its about trusting your FS, and for me that includes liking them so I can as the 'dumb' questions, although we prob do have more to do with the nurses than our FS - although we have our FS's mobile number and can ring her at any time with questions etc - which is good.

However, for us, it was far more important that DH liked our FS! DH was so uptight about the whole IVF thing that if he did not like the FS, IVF was not going to happen! Even now we have moved 300km from our FS, and there is a closer clinic, DH will not consider moving as he does not want to go through finding a new FS that he likes - boys!!!!

FG

[FJL]

I personally need to like my FS. I need to have someone I can trust so that I can fully leave myself in their hands and be confident they will make all the right decisions. I also need to feel that they care about me (even if they don't!) and that I can ask any questions. I also need to feel at ease with them.

Our first FS I didn't like at all, for many reasons, his plans and his bedside manner.

Our current FS I REALLY like. At EPU I was so nervous and he completely put me at ease telling me everything was going to be ok, giving me a pat on the back, making me feel like i'm not a stupid patient and that he knows everything and I know nothing, like I can ask him any questions and i'm also confident in his abilities given his wonderful reputation and experience.

So for me personally, everything matters with my FS. As the other girls have said, you do mainly deal with the nurses and I REALLY like the head nurse but am not keen on the other nurses. They're all friendly but it takes a lot for me to fully trust someone and I don't have that trust with the other nurses, but I have complete trust in the head nurse. I'm sure the other nurses get annoyed with me because I only like to talk to head nurse about certain things, but I don't care.

[onthefly]

You have more interaction with the nurses, so it's definitely important that you like them, cause it can make all the difference in the world sometimes to have a smile or supportive words. But while technical competency is obviously important in an FS, it's important that you can talk to them, since they will be devising your 'plan', and you need to feel comfortable asking all sorts of questions - the nurses can't always tell you everything. Bedside manner is also important since they'll be dealing with you at some potentially very fragile moments. I disliked my FS and it really made things harder when things didn't go well.
Good luck for the 20th (and happy birthday)