I felt guilty for way too long after, due to a number of reasons, being unable to BF DD. I wish I had seen this during that period of feeling like a failure, it's freaking awesome. As for the FF mums being lazy bit... FF is a huge PITA because you can't just whip your boob out and it's there. How many times I had to get up at 3am to make a bottle for DD and was being ****ed off at not being able to just whip my boob out and feed her, sucky.