Ok teat first. If you flip the bottle upside down there should be a steady drip from the teat, not a flow, but a drip ... I'll say for a new-born 1 or 2 drips per second. LAAATER on, I personally wait till they can sit up and drink in the upright position, you can make the teat's hole a bit bigger ... can you imagine laying down and trying to swallow if the flow is to fast?

Then most newborns will fall asleep on the bottle, it's tiring but you don't need to be concerned about that. If she is drinking her feed and falling asleep near the end, you can pat yourself on the back ... you have a happy baby with a full tum You can start to worry when you can't wake her enough to feed, meaning that you have skipped a feed and are still struggeling to get her to drink.

My health nurse told me that I should begin at the lowest volume of formula ( I started at 75 ml per feed ) and if he drinks all his bottles empty each time, I can increase the feed with 25ml, till he drinks all his bottles then increase again .. get it? Currently I'm at 175ml of water, so around 200ml of formula and although the tin says that he should be getting 200ml of water + formula .. he is happy and content and not finishing his bottles. So I'm happy that he is getting what he needs.

Also check the nappies 8 - 10 nice soggy nappies per day is perfect.

And no, you are not stupid, just a first time mommy .... we are here to help.