Hi,

I wonder how you went with the formula? Sounds to me like your baby is a very normal 4.5mnth old. At this age, many mothers finnd their babies are just so engaged with the world. They just can't bare to settle down and have a feed during the day. So much new to see and do! They make up for it by feeding all night. In addition - they are more aware of the world around them- they miss their mum at night, and any sensible baby knows that when mum's nipple is in their mouth she aint going anywhere! Often it's not the food he wants - but the connection to mum. There are several approaches to dealing with this that don't involve formula and therefore jeopardise your breastfeeding relationship.
The bottle is often held out as a shining beacon to tired new mothers - just give the bottle and all your problems will be solved. Your baby will morph into a perfect creature - gurgling happily and sleeping 10 hours at night. It just doesn't work like that! Often the formula seems to work at first - but then baby works outthat a full tummy doesn't substitute for a mum's snuggle - and mums find themselves up warming bottles all night!
If you need any more information - get back to us.

Thanks barb,
i tried her with the bottle she took to it for a few minutes but then refused it and so a gave her the boob, she just continually wants to feed 3 hourly sometime less even through the night . she sleeps really well during the day but at night she just wants to be up and her reflux isnt helping things during the night especially wen she brings up everythign she drinks i just dont no what to do, especially being on my own , i feel like im running out of options as to what to do. the only way to get her to sleep at all during the night is for her to be in bed with me... thanks barb any suggestions would be great im thinking of maby going to a sleep school for a week or so to get into a better routine maby that might help what do you think?x