I actually think many mums who haven't actually ff can still understand why others do. I had terrible problems with DS1 because he couldn't attach and the information I got in the hospital was all wrong and didn't help at all. I had no previous bfing experience, didn't have anyone around who had bfed and I was sinking. The difference between me who continued bfing and other mums who have switched to formula in desperation is nothing but luck. I happened, by pure co-incidence, to see a GP for a totally unrelated issue and this GP turned out to be one of the very few in this city who was able to diagnose the problem and fix it. That and a very good friend gave me an ABA subscription so I then knew where to get further help and support. Luck. Nothing more.

We are all mums. We all know what it's like to be sleep deprived, to have feeding problems, to feel unsure of our selves. We all know what it's like to feel isolated and guilty and a failure. We all learn as we go and we all make mistakes. We all make different choices in situations, sometimes choices we are pleased with, sometimes choices we are not. There is no difference between a ff mum and a bfing mum. We are all mums. We all need support.

And we all need to understand that talking about the advantages of something that we didn't do is not a lack of support. It's part of the learning process for ourselves as mums, for those in our social and family circles and for society as a whole. There are things I would have done differently if I had known then what I know now. But I'm glad I know about them now so that I can share with others and help them on their journeys. I don't beat myself up - I made the right decisions for the information I had at that time, and the resources available to me. I can't change that. We all do the best we can in the situation. And that is the best we can do.

pb, I understand why the post upset you. I can only assure you that it was not intended as it came across. We all post things in haste at times and they can seem very different to what we mean.