You're right, Aliash, there is more to us than veganism and concentrating just on that would not really help. Kind people, who are respectful even if they don't share the same views, would be great - and in a way, children need to be around diverse people otherwise they will get a shock in later life when they discover everyone isn't the same as them

As a single couple with various friends with infants and toddlers, socialising does tend to change so that the friends with kids spend more time with other families than with us singles. In fact, thinking about it, all my veg friends are childless like us - although we are married, most of our friends aren't married and many are single, yet they are all in their 30s. Quite a few woman who've told me they aren't interested in being mothers or having children or settling down too. So, in all likelihood, our friendship group will change a bit when we have kids.... yet my friends with kids are more mainstream in their values, including vegetarianism, but also politically. I do have friends with kids who are eco-conscious (eg. cloth nappies and other things) and friends who've breastfed for longer than standard - and who have used gentle parenting methods. I'm sure i'd be able to bond on those levels regardless of the veg factor.

It's all very exciting anyway!