Aaah shucks! You are so kind Peach. I feel like a poster girl for zombies this morning.....
Ah, yes, that is one of the hazards of deciding to have a baby...you can become obsessed with baby thoughts at all times of the day and night! Even after having my first baby, I was already thinking about when I was going to have the next one! How long until you finish your PhD?
All I can think of is babies when what I need to do is finish my PhD...
Our friendship group changed when we had our first baby. I just wanted to be with other new mums. Some of the most amazing, intelligent and compassionate women (and men) that I know have told me that they are never going to have kids (for various reasons, eg. some are adamant that they don't want kids, others 'missed the boat' so to speak), and I feel that they are people who should be having kids because thay have so much to offer....
We have friends who share our politics and most of our values (minus the veganism!) but do not have kids; or we have friends who are vegan and don't have kids; or friends who have kids but aren't vegan and don't give a brass razoo about politics...or friends who are vegetarian, have kids and share our politics but are moving to Melbourne....But thankfully, it is possible to find some common ground with most people! I just fragment myself. I guess you all know what it is like - there are some people that you would never raise particular topics with, and you just 'quarantine' those pieces of yourself while you are with that person or you tone it down a bit. Sometimes that is hard, and I feel as though I am compromising myself in some way..
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