Without being harsh I have learnt that it is better to wait to rush in to having a baby. I knw it doesn't seem like it but you are very young and have your whole lives ahead of you, don't be in a rush to race through life, savour your youth.
My daughter is 18 and I would say the same to her if she asked me.
Thought I better add this. I started planning to have a baby when I was 15. At 16 me and my partner were actively trying and when I was 17 I had my daughter. In hind site I was fullfilling my desire to be a mother and now when I look back I wasn't really thinking of what was best for my future child. At the time of her birth I lived with my parents and shortly after she went to childcare so I could go to uni.
I think I have done a pretty good job raising her. Brought my own home, got a career, financially secure etc, she goes to private schooling and doesn't miss out on much. She will get her first car and a deposit for her first home.
In hind site before I had her deep down I knew the relationship wouldn't work and now she only has me for her parent. Its not ideal and for the first 4years of her life I was studying fulltime to get my career so we both missed out on alot of mother-daughter time. I certainly don't regret having her but we have both missed out on alot.
thankyou so much..
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