No suggestions sorry but I couldn't leave your post looking so lonely. You're in a bit of a tough spot I guess.

I do have to vouch for the amazing-ness of the Mercy Birth Centre - If anything, they are more inclusive of my partner than they are of me. At my last appt I had a major case of pregnancy brain and in the end the midwife ended up directing all her questions to DP!

That said, I think it's quite hard to get in there these days unless you're in the zoning area. But if I were in your shoes, I'd be doing all I could to birth at the Mercy FBC. Otherwise, have you considered a homebirth? You wouldn't have any trouble finding a queer friendly homebirth midwife, I'm sure.