Good luck to you and your partner when you try to conceive. It certainly is a learning curve.
My partner and I have an almost 3 year old daughter and we have just started trying to conceive again.
My partners family isn't great with us and have never made a secret about not being happy with our relationship but they love Sarah and their issues with us haven't crossed over to her. (so far anyway)
I sometimes find it very hard not having a lot of support from her family, but luckily I have a fantastic family who love us for who we are as people, not what we are.
Welcome Leanne and Selena, It great to have another lesbian couple on BB. I have two boy (9 and 7 years) to whom I am the non-biological mum. their other mum and I separated three and a half years ago and they live half time with each of us. We has them both in a public hospital, An care in the birth centre but both ended up being emergency LSCS. We have never, at that time or since had problems with homophobia in the healthcare setting. We have always been out, proud and unashamed which I think helps. The other factor for us is that I am a doctor and as much as I hate to say it I think you do get treated differently if you are in the healthcare professions. When my eldest DS was born (almost ten years ago) there were a lot fewer lesbians conceiving children together then there are now and we were a bit of a novelty on the postnatal ward! One of the midwives said to me "you are much more attentive than most of husbands"!
I have been with my DP since July 2006 and we have been TTC since june 2007, inseminating me at home using a known donor. This is how my 2 DSs were conceived so if you have any questions re "doing it yourself" am happy to talk further.
Re the lesbian preg book recommended by Alisia, I got my copy from borders- just found it on the shelves! I ahve a few other similar books which I will check the titles of and let you know.
Anyway, welcome again and enjoy your journey!
Thanks girls, thats really great to see so many friendly people. Dr Girl thats really reassuring to know that you never came across any negative behaviour while your sons were born. I was thinking a bit more about it and I know that everyone would treat me lovely...well most of them lol...I have been a RN for years and now doing my endorsement to be a midwife...i think most people like me and those who are a little closed minded cant help but like me cos they knew me before they knew i was gay lol. I agree that if your a staff member they do treat you differently. Just have to see when the time comes I suppose.
I actually have just started in birthsuite tonight after 3 mths working in the maternity ward. I have seen plenty of straight forward deliveries but this was a vacuum and forceps delivery. Its amazing how the birth can be going along so lovely with the woman pushing really well then the baby becomes distressed and then the labour room turns into a bloody theatre with 10 thousand people in there and then once the baby was born she was whisked off to theatre for vaginal repair. I know i've gone off the subject here but I just needed to vent, I really felt for this woman. There was a lot more to it but its just not fair how your ideal birth doesn't always work out and the whole thing becomes so medicalised.
Anyway....
I'm trying to track down this book. I saw a review on the maybe baby website about it and it sounds really good. How is your ttc going drgirl? I hope all is going well and you get BFP very soon!
Thanks Leanne. Our TTC journey is a bit rocky.We had an early niscarriage in nov 2007 and no BFP since then. I am on my third cycle of clomid and this month am adding pregnyl in the luteal phase. We saw FS for first time this week and between my short LP, low progesterone and some issues with our donor's sperm he has recommended IVF/ICSI so we a re now looking into that pathway!
Re. the books I will look up the titles, just haven't had a chance yet.
I am looking forward to receiving the book i ordered 'ultimate guide to pregnancy for lesbians'. i ordered it from bookaholics and apparently is in the post so thats good. I might get more of an idea on things. Thanks for referring me Alisia and drgirl!
Hi to you both ... Well, if it's of any help I fell pregnant at 39+ & had my 1st baby at 40 with the help of the herbal formula from the Ruth Sharkey's Healing Centre in Qld
... I know I fell pregnant for sure on either one of two days when I was ovulating when my reading on the digital thermometer first thing in the morning came up 36.2celcius
Maybe keep a chart with your 1st morn reading, & get to know your ovulation pattern there too !!
I wish you all the very best & let us know how all is going
Sending you a million speckles of baby dusts your way
sorry for the late reply smiles but thanks, that gives me a guide to follow a little. I haven't actually used a temp chart yet, just OPK. This has been quite acurate but maybe if I do the temp chart too it will give me more of an idea. Thanks again,
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... Well, if it's of any help I fell pregnant at 39+ & had my 1st baby at 40 with the help of the herbal formula from the Ruth Sharkey's Healing Centre in Qld 
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