Hey K & J,
Wow I'm so sorry to hear about what happened for you guys...... I don't even know what to say, I can't imagine how horrible that must be to hear! I hope you are somehow able to work it all out
And yeah, I find it strange that the clinic I'm using asks the parents to come along for a meeting and be involved too, but apparently it's their "policy" so I just have to go with it. It's definately not just me either, they do it for all people under 25 who go through the clinic. The counsellor said they are considering making the clinic only available to people over 21 anyway!
I can't believe you have to get your dad's permission if you are under 25! That seems so ludicrous I had my 1st child younger than that and didn't have to ask permission of anyone so why are you prejudiced against?
Yeah I dunno, it ****es me right off too, especially because there are so many other people way younger than me out there getting pregnant, and a lot of them don't even want to have babies, whereas I've been working towards this for what feels like forever now and I want it more than anything and yet it's harder for me to get! So annoying!!
It sucks... I *think* my clinic ask a parent to be present at the counselling session if you are single and under 25... it has so many flaws like... what if you and your parents aren't on speaking terms, or something like that? I can see why, in theory, they think its important (just making sure you have support and all that) but still its not exactly practical.
Yep I do understand that that's why they do it, they just want to know I really do have lots of family support and everything like that, but I have already listed everyone in my family for them that I know are going to be there to support me so I don't understand why they can't just believe me and take my word for it, but I guess they have to make sure the baby really will be ok and stuff. But then if they are doing that why don't they just meet my entire family? lol
My FS explained that they have to answer to an ethical board about all cases, and so they have to make sure that if they have to justify why they treated someone that they can say "well, look, we did this and this and this to make sure that this person was ready and had the support". It's their reputation and practices on the line. I don't think it discrimination, just legally and ethically they have to be 110% sure about it...
I know it seems silly, and I think in a way it is because if you've made the decision to do it through a clinic then thats really showing a certain maturity I think to do it 'properly' instead of just randomly choosing some guy and using his sperm...
But anyway, its not really an issue as your dad is supporting you? So its not really in jepardy, just a bit delayed?
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