Hi Kitty Kat,
I am really cofused with why your clinic has told you they need to speak to your father, As far as I'm aware, and please correct me if I am wrong, we are going through the same clinic here in Perth, Concept Fertility?????
My partner and I first went in when we were 22 to go on the program, no parents were involved and only 1 counselling session. Now this was only last year. Perhaps it was because we had been together for nearly 5 years and were very stable, I don't know..
We were never told once that if we were under 25 then we needed a consenting parent.
I am very confused as to why there are 2 sets of procedures
Hey Gizzmo,
Yeah I have no idea. The counsellor told me that it was definately not only me that they do it with, like it was nothing against me or anything and that all people under 25 have to have either one or both parents come to one counselling session. I'm not entirely sure that I believe her because throughout the whole 6 months that I've been on the waiting list I was never told anything about that policy of theirs, and in that time I saw the counsellor twice and she never once mentioned anything like it at all. It's kind of strange really. I don't think it's so much to do with the "consent" of the parent, I think it's more to do with the counsellor and clinic making sure I definately have really good support around me since I am single and young, but having said that I think if my dad went in there and said "there is no way I want her to do this, she's too young and I don't think it's a good idea at all, blah blah blah" then I think the clinic would seriously think about not letting me do it because they would be worried I wouldn't have enough support, which I would anyway, but I dunno. It's too complicated for my head!!
I'm pretty sure that it would make A LOT of difference having a partner that you have been with for some time, because then the clinic knows that you have that support person there the whole time, so I guess they don't have to worry quite as much?
Wow, what I'm hearing here is astonishing. I would never have thought clinics would run so misinformed. Things such as not letting you know that you need a consenting parent until the last minute like Jess has experienced and the hidden $10 K Drgirl has experienced is absurd to me. These clinics are meant to have a process and the initial appointment should discuss all of the above. Conceiving a baby through a clinic is an emotional rollercoaster as it is and then throw in unexpected expenses etc and it really tests your emotions just when you think you are all prepared and mentally ready. I just think its quite poor the way they have handled the way you have been treated. The prices at these clinics is massive, when my DP and I were first thinking of TTC we investigated a clinic and were told that we should budget for $7 K but medicare and private health cover most of it and we would be only about $1800 out of pocket. This was QFG in townsville so I'm sure each clinic is accredited individually and have their own costing however they justify it. I hope things run more smoothly for you all. All the best!
I am actually amazed at the price of some of these clinics... Our clinic only cost $200 for the use of a sperm donor and $800 for the sperm prep and IUI. We got 80% back thanks to medicare (i have pcos though dunno if that changes anything).
I also thought I'd answer RE choosing to be the tummy mum etc.
Its really not that hard, for some woman the desire to actually carry and give birth to a child is strong (for me it was)but for Shel, she was ready to be a mum but not ready to birth which suited us fine. She has started to think about giving birth next time which is good as I'd love to have another bub soon but not quite ready to birth again lol! Plus, logistically, it worked. Shel was working full time, and I was studying. I am going to finish my studies externally and then I'll go to work and Shel will be home with Jazz and she'll have the next bub in 2-3 years. I don't REALLY want to go to work, I'd much rather be home with Jazz but I also don't want Shel to have to work all the time either, plus once we are considered partnered we wont get a PPS so it makes more sense for me to go to work as I'll be able to earn more with a uni degree. Eventually I'll have the third bub, and thats all we've talked about really. Not sure when #3 is happening, probably 6 or so years.
Wow I am so shocked at all these expenses that everyone is facing.
My partner and I only had to pay $130 for our initial consultation with our Gynacoloist with medicare rebating half and each insemination all we pay is $180. So far we have tried 2 times and falling both times but our little micro just wont stick
We have had 1 month break and I am going on clomid this cycle so I ovulate early ( Not day 28 out of a 35 day cycle like I have been) we also had to just pay just $28 for the clomid
We dont pay any other expense..........
What the?????
You guys could be saving thousands of dollars by just flying over here to WA
Confused????
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