Mum+Mum, thanks for the info. Im sorry to hear your first pregnancy didn't go to plan, i hope you have more luck to come. And I will get some books for sure for a read up.
Thunderstruck, hugely appreciate your reply. I think I know what you mean about starting the whole process with a clinic! So much information and peoples opinions (which is super great), I have read your post over 3 times haha, but going to a clinic I guess would signify the beginning of it all in reality.
From your post I gather that sperm available will really depend on the clinic that you go to, eg from Aus or America, but I am aware of the Aus shortage. Would you mind saying what clinic in Sydney you went to? (my partner is from Sydney.) Can't say i love the sounds of all the needles i'll have to have, but I guess it will all be worth it in the end!!
Congratulations on your bundle and all the best. Make sure you post when he/she arrives.
Jess + Jenna.
Yeah, I'm really not sure about how different things might be at other clinics but at the one we went through (Fertility First in Hurstville) the majority of donors were from the states, actually I think there was only 1 aussie donor and he was reaching his 10 family limit. Once we had registered with them they'd usually send us a donor list several times a month which usually had about 15 donors on it. There was really basic information on that list but then we'd look up the donor numbers on the US site (Xytex) to look at more information. There you can see photos, full family history, personality test, donor essay etc.
ooh, I mean't to say we got two fab books from fishpond.com.au
One was by Rachel Pepper (can't remember the title but i just searched for lesbian pregnancy) and that was really good for finding out about the actual process (clinics and home insemination), things to think about with regard to donors and then info for through the pregnancy. The other one we found interesting was called "For Lesbian Parents" which is a lot more focused on the actual parenting side of things. Both from the states but still I'd highly recommend them.
Good luck on your journey and let us know how you're going of if you've got anymore questions. I found everyone here soo helpful and just reading back through some of the older posts is where we found heaps of great info and support.
Thunderstruck, Wow! I have a friend who had a baby through donor program at Fertility First in Hurstville! Baby is around 5 months now, and the donor she used was also from America. She probably used the Xytex site as you did, and I was lucky enough to be shown by her the website and the profiles, so I see how much info you would have also viewed! :] Jessica (partner) is really keen on finding as much info as possible about the sperm donor etc, so I hope WA clinics are similar in that respect. Otherwise, we may enquire to Fertility First.
I may be mistaken, but I was under the impression that sperm could only be deposited to 5 families? Or does it differ, whether the sperm is Aussie or American?
I was wondering about where I would gain some parenting books, (explaining donor/father situations etc), I think ebay America is the place to start!! Thanks for the heads up.
I bet you are getting more and more excited about meeting your bub, do you know the sex? The friend who I mentioned also went through Fertility First, found out the sex of her little girl. When I enquired why, she exclaimed "I thought the fact I could only picture 50% of what she looks like was a big enough surprise!" Haha.
Anyway, thanks so much for your replies again, we appreciate it, and goodluck!!
J+J xx
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