I was in a lesbian relationship for 5 years and during that time we had a daughter my ex partner is the biological mother, we ended our relationship 8 months ago and for the last 6 months i have had my daughter every weekend friday afternoons to sunday afternoons and spent time with her wednesday afternoons, i also call her every night to say goodnight. My daughter is 3 in may. So last wednesday i drove her home and my ex told me she was moving interstate that friday, i begged her not to take my daughter from me but she didnt care. So i spent the day with her friday then said goodbye she wouldnt let me go and kept saying please dont leave me mum it broke my heart. Now im not sure what to do i spoke to a lawyer who said i could go to court to get her back and i have every right to, as now i am legally recognised as her parent, i just dont know if i want to hurt my ex i still love her, but she hurt me by doing this. I still call her every night only now every night she crys on the phone to me and says i want to go with you mum. What should i do???
i don't have any advice either, but what a crap situation.
Has she gone interstate for good? Any chance you want to move interstate? i feel for you and your poor little bubba.
I live in qld all my family is in qld as to is my ex's family shes moved to nsw to be with some of her friends, she says its not permament only temporary to pay all her bills but with the amount of debt she has it could take years. Before she left she said i could see her once a month but i would have to pay for both of our travels. I just dont think its fair going from every weekend and every wednesday to one day a month...
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation. In all seriousness though, I think you need to get some legal advice and get your rights sorted out - ASAP. You're her mum, you have to be a part of her life & if your ex wont give you reasonable access then you need some sort of custody agreement to make sure that you get time with your daughter too.
I think you really need to seek some legal advice about this hun Depending on the situation it can be hard to get a relocation order, but you will more than likely need to have a formal custody arrangement in place.
Oh how horrible! What a terrible situation for all involved, most of all your little girl.
As a mumma, my first reaction was 'get her back'! If it is not possible for you to relocate close to her, then I'd honestly be thinking that going through the justice system maybe the way to go. It might make your ex see how it is tearing you and your daughter's heart apart. You never know, she may willingly move back before anything really goes anywhere.
This is a decision you really need to make for yourself though dear. What I have said is just what I think my reaction to such a situation would be. What ever you choose it will be the right thing for your DD as well as yourself.
and thats where the majority of the problem lays i have contacted my lawyer and she has told me to write a letter demanding she return my daughter to qld immediatley if my ex doesnt follow this they will someone to collect my daughter but then that would be so confusing for her and as much as i would love to have her back i dont want to hurt her. But then i think what my ex did by taking her away from everyone and everything she knows to move into one of her friends places that my daughter barely even knows.. Just confused really....
Considering her age, and that she isn't in school yet, could you try to get more visitation with her, say for a few weeks at a time? I know that isn't ideal and what you want at all, but it might be one way to reach a compromise with your ex.
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