i don't have any advice either, but what a crap situation.
Has she gone interstate for good? Any chance you want to move interstate? i feel for you and your poor little bubba.
I live in qld all my family is in qld as to is my ex's family shes moved to nsw to be with some of her friends, she says its not permament only temporary to pay all her bills but with the amount of debt she has it could take years. Before she left she said i could see her once a month but i would have to pay for both of our travels. I just dont think its fair going from every weekend and every wednesday to one day a month...
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation. In all seriousness though, I think you need to get some legal advice and get your rights sorted out - ASAP. You're her mum, you have to be a part of her life & if your ex wont give you reasonable access then you need some sort of custody agreement to make sure that you get time with your daughter too.
I think you really need to seek some legal advice about this hun Depending on the situation it can be hard to get a relocation order, but you will more than likely need to have a formal custody arrangement in place.
Oh how horrible! What a terrible situation for all involved, most of all your little girl.
As a mumma, my first reaction was 'get her back'! If it is not possible for you to relocate close to her, then I'd honestly be thinking that going through the justice system maybe the way to go. It might make your ex see how it is tearing you and your daughter's heart apart. You never know, she may willingly move back before anything really goes anywhere.
This is a decision you really need to make for yourself though dear. What I have said is just what I think my reaction to such a situation would be. What ever you choose it will be the right thing for your DD as well as yourself.
and thats where the majority of the problem lays i have contacted my lawyer and she has told me to write a letter demanding she return my daughter to qld immediatley if my ex doesnt follow this they will someone to collect my daughter but then that would be so confusing for her and as much as i would love to have her back i dont want to hurt her. But then i think what my ex did by taking her away from everyone and everything she knows to move into one of her friends places that my daughter barely even knows.. Just confused really....
Considering her age, and that she isn't in school yet, could you try to get more visitation with her, say for a few weeks at a time? I know that isn't ideal and what you want at all, but it might be one way to reach a compromise with your ex.
i suggested that to my ex i said the last week of every month we could meet half way and then she would spend a week with me and then we would meet halfway to drop her off again she wasnt interested in this, shes happy with the one day a month and i wont settle for that its not fair on me or my daughter especially considering she has only been gone not even a week and is crying to me every night now saying she wants to see me.
Well one day a month on an interstate trip is pure madness and clearly not in the best interests of anyone! It is unreasonable for her to expect you to be happy with that when you have had a lot more access previously.
I am so sorry for what is happening to you. It must be absolute heart break. My suggestion would be to write your ex a letter outlining your legal rights as a parent and the repercussions that your ex will have to deal with if she doesn't do the right thing. Tell her that you have a lawyer and that you will use the law if you have to. I don't know your ex, but hopefully this will scare her enough for her to reconsider what she is doing.
My thoughts are with you honey, and I hope that this horrible situation is sorted out for you and your baby girl.
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