thread: So close - and yet so far!

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  1. #1
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    35

    Hi Jen,

    apologies for the previous post that says nothing.... hit the button too soon.

    Sorry to hear about your loss - it is sad, but in my opinion if you dwell on it i think you fail to move forward. I had my period of sadness and grief - and then thought that's it - i have to move forward. That is what i thought anyway - when it happened to me twice.

    the first time - i was 8 weeks - and had to have a D&C and spent 5 days in hospital and all the rest of the trauma of loss that goes along with it - 2nd time 5 weeks and i just seemed to carry on.

    then 5 months later i was pregnant with my son and i guess when i think back now - 4.5 years later - it was a sad time, i haven't forgotten what i went through, who they might have been or what might have been - but i am thankful everyday for my little boy - and feel the need to squeeze him more often than perhaps i would have if i hadn't have experienced the trauma of loss.

    Stay positive - it will happen and perhaps you will feel like i do - sad that it happened but glad that it did in some small way as you seem to treasure what you have so much more...i do anyway.

    Focus on this month or next until it happens - best of luck.

    Cheers
    Levi

  2. #2
    Registered User

    Jun 2010
    4

    Hi Levi,

    Thankyou so much for replying to my post and sharing your experiences. I was barely 4-5 weeks along and it felt too early to call it a miscarriage, especially out of respect for those women like yourself who have lost pregnancies further along.
    Nevertheless, it helped a lot to write about it here and vent a little! - Not too many people know I'm trying to conceive so at the time I just didn't know what to do with the feelings.

    Your story was a reminder that I'm not alone, as well as being very encouraging! I'm really glad to hear about your little guy too!

    Now I feel happy that I was able to conceive and, after a weird, way out of whack cycle (due to one of my ovaries showing signs of PCOS - I'm about to give up sugar... yikes!!
    ), I'm getting back in the saddle..

    Thanks again!
    Jen