We thought we would come on and say hello! We are Leanne 29 and Selena 37 and planning to ttc at the end of the year. At the moment we are trying to gather as much info as we can and get Leanne's cycle down pat. We have chosen to use a known donor as this sounds like the best option for us. We are both nurses and Leanne is a student midwife also due to finish in december this year so we have some knowledge but its great to find this website for contacts and info. Most of the other sites are overseas and hetro only so its hard to relate to them. We live in Townsville, Nth Queensland, is anybody from around this area? We thought we might ttc via home insemination first of all and try our luck before doing IVF. Has anybody else had issues with the ovulation test strips? We have found that the second line never fully gets as dark or darker than the control line. Is this normal? We have only tested one cycle so far so we will get used to the process as the months pass and get closer to doing the real thing. We just wanted to introduce ourselves and wish you all luck and happiness with the conception and pregnancy process. Looking forward to chatting to you all soon.
Hi Lea and welcome to BB! How exciting for you to be TTC at the end of the year - it will be here in no time. I was going to suggest that you check out the OPKs, HPT's and other home tests forums to answer your questions, but I see you've already found it
Hi and welcome to the site you will find heaps of great advice and support here .
I used the home ovulation kit when ttc and had a similar problem in that the line was never as dark. I just assumed that if there was a visible second line then I was ovulating. I also used a Maybe Baby, a small microscope that works on saliva. When you ovulate your saliva takes on a fern like pattern and this can help determine when this happens (can be a bit pricey though). Good luck to both of you and lots of your way.
Are you using the opk at the same time everyday? And making sure it is NOT first moring urine? I found testing around midday the best. And it may well be that you are miscalculating when you are about to ovulate. You may need to test over ten days to figure what your ovulation day is.
Firstly, welcome! Yep, I found BB the best place too (should I warn you its addicitive...? Well, it is, but thats half the fun!).
I think you've found help on the OPKs. They're a bit tricky to use. I don't think I ever got a full dark line, its just the way some people are, hormones and all them weird and wonderful things!
We used an unknown donor so haven't had to do all the contracts etc. but defiantely make sure that they are done and all the legal issues like custody, access, birth certificate, and the donors role (donor, dad, 'uncle' or 'family friend'...) is clear on both sides. Too many times have people used a known donor only to find once they are pregnant that the donor and the mums have completely different ideas on how the sitautions and relationships are going to work.
(Obviously if you've already done that then ignore me!)
Have you read the book 'Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians',by Rachel Pepper. It's got lots of that info in it
Good luck with your insems! We used an unnknown donor from an Australian clinic so we did IUI, so I can't really help with the specifics of that (though there is a lesbian parents australia yahoo group which is very active... theres a story about it in the may issue of LOTL... if you need advice on the ins and outs of doing it at home ).
Ooooooo, Jodie, are you talking about US!? Hehehe!
Its great to meet all of you, everybody is so receptive and thats so nice to see. Leasha I know what you mean about this site being addictive, I need to have a squiz every time I go online lol. I am currently trying to do my assignment and get distracted with more interesting and fun things like this hehe.
That book for lesbian conception you quoted, where can you purchase it, is it australian? I was going to get another one but it pertained to america so much that it was hard to relate to. As you all know, we are just at the beginning stages of getting my cycle worked out but its fantastic to see that there is such a great support network out there.
I know this is a bit off the subject but as a lesbian couple have any of you had negative dealings with family, health care providers etc? As a student midwife working in the maternity ward and birthing suite at the moment I have seen the midwives have a giggle and snicker when any same sex couples come in to have their baby but i guess you will get that everywhere. We were contemplating on going private but the only private hospital in townsville is the mater hospital which is very heavily catholic and not very open to same sex couples as I have heard from people who work there. We are only making suggestions at the moment because it will be further down the track for us to make those decisions but it is still something that bothers me. All will come together I am sure. Maybe it would be better if I didnt know how staff acted behind the scenes lol. I wish you all lots of fun and laughter over the weekend and looking forward to chatting more...
Hello from Leanne n Selena
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