Its great to meet all of you, everybody is so receptive and thats so nice to see. Leasha I know what you mean about this site being addictive, I need to have a squiz every time I go online lol. I am currently trying to do my assignment and get distracted with more interesting and fun things like this hehe.
That book for lesbian conception you quoted, where can you purchase it, is it australian? I was going to get another one but it pertained to america so much that it was hard to relate to. As you all know, we are just at the beginning stages of getting my cycle worked out but its fantastic to see that there is such a great support network out there.
I know this is a bit off the subject but as a lesbian couple have any of you had negative dealings with family, health care providers etc? As a student midwife working in the maternity ward and birthing suite at the moment I have seen the midwives have a giggle and snicker when any same sex couples come in to have their baby but i guess you will get that everywhere. We were contemplating on going private but the only private hospital in townsville is the mater hospital which is very heavily catholic and not very open to same sex couples as I have heard from people who work there. We are only making suggestions at the moment because it will be further down the track for us to make those decisions but it is still something that bothers me. All will come together I am sure. Maybe it would be better if I didnt know how staff acted behind the scenes lol. I wish you all lots of fun and laughter over the weekend and looking forward to chatting more...
Sometimes life is made unnecessarily harder isn't it? Have you considered a homebirth? I really hope that the other staff you work with don't let their personal thoughts interfere with their professionalism because that's the last thing a birthing woman needs to deal with.
Hi Leanne, we bought our book from Hares and Hyenas online store (google hares and hyenas, and then on their website go to "parenting" on the right menu for all the books or search Rachel Pepper ). It is an American book, I don't know that theres an Australian book out though I'm sure google could help find an answer to that! There's a lot on US legislation which isn't relevant, as well as US sperm banks, but we've found everything else in it really helpful. There's ALOT about fertility and tracking/charting fertility which I really enjoyed (we used a clinic so they did most of it but at least I knew what they were doing and why).
Lol, well I'm not going to go in to the negative reactions we've gotten from family. I'll just say yes, we've had to deal with some very negative very homophobic reactions from my side of the family. It's devastating and painful but at least I know now IYKWIM? I'd rather know where I stand than live in fantasy world thinking all is fine and dandy. I am hoping what everyone says is true, and that they will come around once Bubble is born. I doubt it, I know them and they'd rather jump off a cliff than admit they could have been wrong, but I still hope.
At first we thought we were going to have some battles with health professionals, but actually we've never encountered any negative comments from anyone. There are sometimes a few people who you think might be thinking a certain way, but then they are the kind of people who would judge a young mum, or single mum, or anyone who isn't in a married heterosexual relationship so I don't take it personally. Some people just can't open their minds and consider another side of life, and thats just taking away from their life experience IMO. I used to get upset by it, but now I just let it go as their loss.
It is hard though, making that decision. Is homebirth an option? I wanted a homebirth as I was sure we'd face similar attitudes to what you are facing, but we haven't yet so I am going to the hospital. We probably would have had a homebirth had we felt unfairly targeted at any point though. Birth is such an intimate experience, and if you think that your midwives hold certain attitudes towards you chances are you won't be able to relax which isn't ideal. We also worried about Shel's involvement, though I have no fears that she'll feel less involved than any other partner during labour and birth.
Feel free to ask any more questions (oh and you can add me to MSN if you want, its on my profile page ).
Welcome Leanne & Selena - BB is a very welcoming and supportive place to share your experiences with TTC & pregnancy. Hope you get all the support you need during this exciting phase of your life!
Leash! - WOW! That belly of yours has suddenly got so big! Ha ha Looks great, sounds like everything is going well with your pg. I meant to reply to your name thread but didn't get chance - Alexis is gorgeous name.
Thankyou so much for that, it has given me a different perspective on things. You sound like you have been through the works with your family. Mine was very similar when me n sel first got together and then it was mainly mum. We have been together since oct 2006 so now she is kind of getting the used to the idea that her little girl isn't going to have the life she dreamed of and is much more friendly to sel. Then I was having a chat with her 'hypothetically speaking' asking what she would think if we ever had a baby and the response was somewhat negative quoting things like 'i'd still like the baby but it's just not natural' and wanted to change the subject quicker than you could blink. This just confirmed my thoughts about her hidden thoughts that still remain about me n sel. I have learnt that you cannot control other peoples feelings on what lifestyle you wish to lead and you also cannot....as you said leasha...live a fantasy thinking everything is fine either. The most important thing is that we are happy in the life we are living and thats all that matters. I used to try and please everybody else but now know that isn't possible. I am very close to my older sister who is ever so supportive of us and us having a baby, she is the only one of us who has a couple of little ones and very excited about becoming a first time aunt lol.
I just want to thank all of you for your friendly gestures and support so far, you sound like beautiful loving people and look forward to getting to know you better
Good luck to you and your partner when you try to conceive. It certainly is a learning curve.
My partner and I have an almost 3 year old daughter and we have just started trying to conceive again.
My partners family isn't great with us and have never made a secret about not being happy with our relationship but they love Sarah and their issues with us haven't crossed over to her. (so far anyway)
I sometimes find it very hard not having a lot of support from her family, but luckily I have a fantastic family who love us for who we are as people, not what we are.
Welcome Leanne and Selena, It great to have another lesbian couple on BB. I have two boy (9 and 7 years) to whom I am the non-biological mum. their other mum and I separated three and a half years ago and they live half time with each of us. We has them both in a public hospital, An care in the birth centre but both ended up being emergency LSCS. We have never, at that time or since had problems with homophobia in the healthcare setting. We have always been out, proud and unashamed which I think helps. The other factor for us is that I am a doctor and as much as I hate to say it I think you do get treated differently if you are in the healthcare professions. When my eldest DS was born (almost ten years ago) there were a lot fewer lesbians conceiving children together then there are now and we were a bit of a novelty on the postnatal ward! One of the midwives said to me "you are much more attentive than most of husbands"!
I have been with my DP since July 2006 and we have been TTC since june 2007, inseminating me at home using a known donor. This is how my 2 DSs were conceived so if you have any questions re "doing it yourself" am happy to talk further.
Re the lesbian preg book recommended by Alisia, I got my copy from borders- just found it on the shelves! I ahve a few other similar books which I will check the titles of and let you know.
Anyway, welcome again and enjoy your journey!
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). It is an American book, I don't know that theres an Australian book out though I'm sure google could help find an answer to that! There's a lot on US legislation which isn't relevant, as well as US sperm banks, but we've found everything else in it really helpful. There's ALOT about fertility and tracking/charting fertility which I really enjoyed (we used a clinic so they did most of it but at least I knew what they were doing and why). 
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