I know there was an article about a man who had donated to about 30 lesbian couples in Adelaide and there was some concern about it. However, the families all knew who the donor was and would apparently make this known to the children (at the right time). I think there is more of an issue if the donor is unidentified and you don't know how many other times he has donated. In the older sperm bank scenarios donors could donate multiple times and they wouldn't know how many times their donations had been used or how many babies had been successfully conceived. IMO this is a more worrying scenario as there is much more of an unknown element.
I think if you know the donor and you are aware of his history of donations and you are transparent about this with any children then I think you are doing the most that you can do.
Thanks for your reassurance and help ladies. We have spent lots of time discussing the issues that might come up and have also thought about the many other children who are fathered by random one night stands and are probably more at risk than our child will be as we will have involvement with our donor from day dot. Nurse27 I think I know of the donor who has over 50 families and wants them to band together and I agree its a bit weird. He approached us by email numerous occasions, I dont know how he even got our email but he is constantly recruiting I know. Our donor is nothing of that sort, he has given us the perogative to the amount of contact we wish for the child to have with him and is respectful of everyones privacy. I am not so worried about the issue as I was the other day. Selena is not worried either. It will be very open and well known in our house in how our little one has come about so it shouldn't be an issue. I think it is just stress at the last minute in whether we have made the right decision, nothing will ever be perfect thats just life. Anyway, thanks again for your thoughts ladies.
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