my XH had ADD (totally out of control a lot of the time which is one of the reasons he's now a XH), but when he was willing to take responsibility for it, we pretty much had it under control. He had it from a child, his parents used to just medicate him (and use him having ADD as an excuse for his behaviour - his mother still does it to this day - or did last time I spoke to her which was about a year ago) instead of helping to give him coping strategies and do other things to manage it. (a good friend of mine was diagnosed with ADD as a child, his parents got him into meditation and things like that - he is now a university professor with a phd)
I found that by cooking most of our foods from scratch, reducing the amount of "junk" and take-awy that he put into his body that he was more "in control". I also made sure he had fish oil every day and a decent multivitamin. When I went through a period of us just eating organic it was like I was married to a normal person! He also was prescribed dex-amphetamines which did help him when he took them.
There is a good book that my x-mil gave me about ADD & ADHD in adults, if I can find it (don't' know if I kept it when we split) I can send it to you - I don't need it any more.
AngelPunks - I've order a couple of books, one specifically for women with ADD (apparently we're underdiagnosed)
Mantaray - AD/HD seems to be hereditary. My Mum thinks she may have it (this from the a woman you'd think was the most organised in the world - turns out she's overfunctioning to compensate). I think my Dad may too (he's definately Aspergers or something IMO & they seem to be linked)
I've figured it's not the end of the world - I've managed to get 3 degrees with it (though if I'd known the angst/procrastination/ late night cramming/ last minute assignment drama was ADD related I might have been able to get more help ). I seem to have evolved behaviour that helps manage it anyway, without knowing I had the label. I don't want to use it as an "excuse", but more to understand why I am the way I am and find ways to deal with it. I'll look into the food intolerance thing too - that looks useful. It's just weird - being dx at 35!
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). I seem to have evolved behaviour that helps manage it anyway, without knowing I had the label. I don't want to use it as an "excuse", but more to understand why I am the way I am and find ways to deal with it. I'll look into the food intolerance thing too - that looks useful. It's just weird - being dx at 35!
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