Hi Cassie,

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this right now. The incontinence issue most likely is unrelated to the low calcium / low weight you have. Have you had your thyroid checked? Some women are naturally thin. Before I had treatment for my AML, I was extremely underweight (def the opposite now tho lol), I was training quite a bit though but I ate a LOT, I ate constantly and I ate bad food but struggled to put weight on. There wasnt anything wrong with me (this wasnt what led to my AML or a symptom of it), it was just my own natural metabolism.

In regards to your calcium levels, it would be interesting to know if you have low vit d and low potassium. The reason why is that you need vit d for your body to absorb calcium. Certain drinks like coke will actually decrease your absorption of calcium and can decrease your Vit D level. So if you are drinking coke (I am a very bad addict of it unfortunately), I would avoid it if possible because it is REALLY bad for people who have low calcium. Having extra calcium to counteract this does not work because if you dont have the VitD to help the calcium be absorbed then you will just excrete the rest (best way I can explain it after nightshift lol).

The incontinence nurses are great, they will most likely get you to keep a diary of how much fluid you are having, when you first feel the urge to go and when you actually decide to go. The other thing they will definately do is to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles as this is one of the major causes of incontinence in women. You will find that if you try to hang on, you may have incontinence issues because you will end up still have a residual amount of urine still in your bladder even though you make think you emptied it, in reality you may have 300mls still left there, so the next time you need to go you will have an extra 300mls dying to get out.

Let us know how you get on and I am sorry your doctors appointment was so bad. I wish it was a more positive experience but hopefully the dietician that you see will be absolutely lovely and get you on the right track along with support from the nurses that you are seeing.

So you know its not uncommon for young women to have this issue, so dont think you are too young or too old to have this issue. Take care and I will be thinking of you