To dear Lorelle, I'm so desperately sorry to hear this news. I can't give you any words to help ease the pain as there is just no way to do that.

So I will offer my thoughts...

Sometimes the journey with Breast Cancer gets the better of even the strongest and bravest of us. I know you will be questioning why this has happened and I want to say your reaction"what's next?" is perfectly normal. When something like this happens it makes us all stop and re-evluate our own life and our own experiences and wonder why some people seem to be 'luckier' than others. I don't want you to think you are luckier than your sister and that something bad will happen to you. Life is unpredictable, some people sail through without even a small glitch and then there are some of us that fight just to keep our heads above water. I don't believe it's luck. The really tough situations are only sent to those that can cope, call it Gods way or karma or whatever you want. I truely believe we are not given anything we can't manage. When it seems like all hope is lost and you can't go on, take a moment, sit quietly and find that place deep down inside where your true strength and courage lives and ask for help and guidance. Find the Princess Warrior within that all of us women have and you will get through. Your family needs your courage now, but don't be afraid to show you are scared and heartbroken. Strength comes from adversity and the saying "what doesn't kill you will make you stronger" is true. YOU WILL get through this and YOU WILL find a way to support your partner because quite simply you have to. Both your DP and your SIL will draw their own strength from your love and support just now.

Keep listening, keep,loving your family and try to keep going the best way you can. It won't be easy and it won't be pretty but you CAN get through this, you WILL get pregnant again if the worst happens and your beautiful SIL needs to leave this earth take comfort in the fact your children will have their very own special, loving and protective guardian angel watching over them and keeping them safe.

xxxx