Alicia - thanks for the information on the book I will check that out for sure

Thanks also to the other girls for the extra information. It has been hard sometimes I have felt like I have two babies because there are some things that DH cant do like put his socks on but we have been together a very long time and know each other very well and it is an important part of our relationship to communicate which helps heaps. As long as he talks about the pain I guess and ways to manage it then we will be able to help each other.

Really thanks heaps I do appreciate it. Sorry to hear about all your sore backs too