something i WISH i had done, when bilby was tiny and i was SO not coping
(not driving, in pain just to stand, not cooking, not up to making sandwiches even)

- make an online shopping list with Coles or Woollies, even just to get the bare basics of food into the home e.g bread, milk, cereal
- make a standing order at a fruit n veg place, to have fresh produce delivered
- when visitors said "is there anything i can do", i could have asked them to make up a whole loaf into sandwiches, gladwrap them, and stick them in the freezer
- i should have asked my X (you might ask your mum), to make up lunchboxes, snackboxes, to leave for me in the fridge - full of things i could eat one handed (whilst breastfeeding for example, which is a time you're sitting down, and you get nibbly)
- i should have had a bowl full of fruit on open display, easy to grab a piece of fruit to snack on (things that don't need peeling or cutting up)
- i wish i had made a list of "things i like to eat" for the fridge, that would have made it easier for helpers.

one thing i did get going, was my "Breastfeeding Box". On one end of couch. with
- phone
- lipbalm (or whatever it is, that YOU seem to want, but can't get/find when you're bf-ing
- 2 litre bottle of water
- breastpads
- diary for scheduling
- pen and paper to make lists etc
- muesli bars (insert your snack of choice, esp if you can eat it one handed)
- flat nappy (for DD's spills)
- spare t-shirt (for me)
- baby wipes
- headache medicine (you can also get headaches when you forget to drink enough water)
- gripe water and measuring pipette (insert whatever YOUR bub needs on a regular basis)
- tv remote / novel / ipod / insert your escapism preference
- hairbrush (for when the doorbell goes and you realise, it's late afternoon and you haven't had time/though to brush your own hair
i didn't need ALL of that, the entire time we bf, but it really helped in the beginning - when i was too scared to feed anywhere but the couch and needed a million pillows to be able to feed her.

If your X is visiting on a regular basis and is helpful, you could have a list on the fridge for him, of things to do that need doing. He's the dad, whether you're together or not, you both brought a child into the world.

15kg in four weeks, is a tremendous amount of weight to lose, does your regular GP know about this? I hope you are ok. Breakups, moving house, having a newborn - these things can make you lose weight - but you need to keep up your strength, both ends of the spectrum (too fat, too thin) bring dangers. Do you still have an appetite PZ? Your life has been turned upside down, you're beside yourself, but please eat. I have no idea, the minimum period you can sign up for "lite n easy", i'm hoping it's not a long time, so you can try it and not be locked into 24 months of it, for example, JIC it's not your thang. I hope it IS your thang, cos you're right, it will mean you'll eat 3x a day. I just hope you have fresh stuff in the house, to have AS WELL.

it's hard to eat when you're stressed, i'm hope your GP, a counsellor, someone IRL, gets you some counselling - cos you are dealing with alot = many BB-ers thinking of you, wishing you well, knowing this is a REALLY tough time for you honey.

love
Gigi