oh sweetheart I feel your pain.....go to he spare bed and get a couple of nights solid sleep...then send him to the doctor in the meantime for an assessment.
My DH snores so badly that you can hear thim three rooms away while your head is under the shower. Both my kids snore too - woohoo NOT!.
DH has been assessed and has chronic sleep apnoea. He has a CPAP mask, which helps most of the time but he hates wearing it. He does always comment on what a good sleep he has when he does wear it though
If he's asleep before me and not wearing it - too bad I need to sleep too and DS and I are in the spare bed.
It is much better when he is lighter and we are working on getting 30kgs off ATM, so I understand your DH feeling a bit deprived, but hey it isn't fair that you should have to stay awake either and which is worse? He's still getting fed, but you're getting no sleep at all.....
My DH stops breathing over 50 times per hour according to the assessment....that can't be good for long term health.
I hear your pain, whilst I was pregnant with Jack DH was at his worst, it didn't matter what way he was lying and he was loud. I even went to the spare room but could still hear him through the wall, so ended up on the computer for a couple of hours.
I ended up getting him Nasal Strips called Breathe Right. They did help, some nights better than others and DH even commented on how much more refreshed he felt in the morning from getting a good nights sleep.
i feel your pain, i think DP and i spend about an hour in bed together, i go to bed first, then he comes to bed later, then within an hour of him falling asleep i am awake and can't get back to sleep as he is snoring, or quite often just audibly breathing, but its enough to keep me awake, so i wander into the spare room and fall asleep in there.... its not very ideal for a relationship but neither is lack of sleep, so for me i put sleep first... i recently googled the subject and found a staggering number of couples sleep separately due to different sleep habits (snoring etc). made me feel less bad about it.
well, all your lovely posts made me feel better. And I think DH started to realise the gravity of the situation (i.e. insane wife incoming if you're not careful!) and came up with a gorgeous trick to try... because I end up just being more wakeful if he tries to wait to come to bed later - he said he'd set up a bed on the lounge floor (we have no spare room) and the sofa bed is too short for him. So single foam mattress on the floor - and he'd sleep there. And IF i manage to get to sleep before him, well then he can alway ssneak back into bed!
I was really pleased he was trying to come up with something. We've done 3 nights so far, and he's only snuck back in once, at 5am this moning lol! But our bub has been unsettled with a cold, so that's kinda mucked things up too. So it's not a solution yet, but we're working on it. Need to try the breathe right strips. Re sleeping on his back - that NEVER happens, cos I always make him roll onto his side. Sometimes when I've been in the lounge, have to go into the bedroom and roll him over so he's facing to the window, cos he's that loud even on his side, with the door shut AND the carpet snake in place... that it still keeps me awake from another room.
~Kim~ - I have a question - can you hear your DH stop breathing? I've listened to my DH and I can't hear anything that sounds like sleep apnea, but maybe I don't know what to listen to? Or can it happen and not be assessable by a lay person? I would like DH to be assessed... need to work on that.
Oh and ironically enough, the one day I tried to day nap - I couldn't. But usually I do avoid day sleeps unless I'm just absolutely non-functional. Then of course bub is unsettled and I feel like a total idiot for having not slept when i could! arrrgh. I have a plan that as we convert my home office to a second bedroom/nursery, there will be a day bed in there for me.... so I can sleep there during the next PG. Sofa bed in lounge/mattress on floor is just a PITA - we can't live like this forever! And we don't have that big a house we can have separate bedrooms - plus I don't want that anyway.
Anyway, off to bed for me now! Sleep well & may your husbands be quiet (ancient irish blessing )
Belfie, only sometimes can I hear him stop breathing. It must be the nurse in me, but it did used to wake me up. So I's count and if he hadn't started breathing on his own by 10 I'd give him a shove to get it going again.
But generally no you couldn't hear it. I would only hear maybe once or twice a night but when he was assessed clinically it was over 50 an hour.
I feel your pain.....go to he spare bed and get a couple of nights solid sleep...then send him to the doctor in the meantime for an assessment.
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that it still keeps me awake from another room.
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