Would you tell your partner?

[Mumof8]

me and my df have a packed aswell but it seems im the only one that does any talking he just agree'svery anoying at time. I think you should just tell her and then back it up by saying well you did tell me to say something. I to have let my weight get away from me and now its gunna be 3 times as hard to get it off. like 13kgs since i had my baby

[Willow]

LoriRae - your DH sounds exactly like mine!!! At the moment he's on a health kick and really trying, riding his bike every night etc and I really hope it lasts this time. He's lost about 10kg since xmas but he needs to lose a lot more. It didn't bother me when we were younger, but the older we get and the more babies we have I do really worry about his health. He also smokes (a lot) and has a family history of diabetes and heart disease...you'd think that would be enough no??!!

Leasha - I'd take the subtle approach of suggesting you do it togehter and stop buying junk food. The rule in our house is that if you want a treat badly enough, you'll get off your butt and go to the shop to get it. Needless to say, doesn't happen very often! LOL.

[visitor1]

Definately no pact here...Dh married me for who i am..not what i look like or how fat i get.
Id be offended if he tried to tell me i was gettin fatter even if he was just doing it for my health benefit etc.

Maybe try and get Shel to do things with you 'as a family'..that way she might not notice

[alioops]

When I am not pg, I know DH will be honest with me about my weight. He goes for a run every day (usually at work) but on weekends he will get up early and have his run, then come back to bedHe has been at me before he went away to go for walks, but I haven't been interested due to the pg related tiredness and general aches and pains.

I think what would work to get Shel out walking with you is if you said would leave Jazz with her while you walk. I am sure she would rather walk than risk Jazz getting upset and not having bbs available for milk

[meow]

I think what would work to get Shel out walking with you is if you said would leave Jazz with her while you walk. I am sure she would rather walk than risk Jazz getting upset and not having bbs available for milk

Really? That would never work in our house... my H would be thrilled to have more alone time with our son. It's me that stresses about taking the breastmilk away!

[Indadhanu]

LOL ren - ali knows the inner workings of Shel's mind She's right, that probably would work

[luna moth]

I've been told... in May last year, and he did a really good job of it. I had really stacked it on, and I'm so annoyed with myself for letting it happen.
I've never had to tell him; we're in an atypical relationship where we've both slimmed right down since we started dating. But I would, if I though it was necessary. Or I would rampup the amoutn of exercise I was doing and ask him to join me - but we've got the kind of relationship where that works.
Walking together is SO good for your relationship. Before we were married, I used to get up really early to walk him to work. It's also brilliant for your mental health. Maybe take that tack, as someone suggested earlier about "I'm feeling frumpy/stir-crazy/depressed and I really want to get out of the house and spend time with you"

All the bests!

[Jewel]

We don't have a pact here either. I try the subtle hints about going for a walk with me or walking to the supermarket to get a few little things, most the time he's makes excuses, occasionally he comes along. I've even said to him straight out he needs to exercise but he just goes "yeah, I know" but never does it.
I have no idea how to get through to him at all.

Good luck, Leasha.
I don't have any suggestions to add to what anyone else has said.

xox

[paradise lost]

We don't have a pact exactly, but we're both into keeping healthy and sane so exercise features large (added to this we both love our food and with my thyroid/metabolic issues i would turn into a sofa if i stopped exercising, though he seems to be luckier in that regard!).

I actually wouldn't mind very much if DP looked a lot different but i HATE seeing him low/down/sluggish so i am very keen that he gets the exercise he needs. I know he fancies me like mad and he felt that way when i was 101kg and 77kg so it doesn't matter too much, but he also knows that at 101kg i was unhappy with my body and not as confident or healthy as i naturally am when i have a normal BMI. He is my best friend and is really honest with me, so if i say "am i gaining weight?" and i am, he says "yes". I'm not offended by honesty though so maybe not the best to advise.

I would ask if she can keep Jaz while you go to the gym for 2 hours and when she argues you tell her to come with you for a walk instead.

Bx