A 2nd baby scares me to death!

[Mother Hubbard]

My DS#1 is 2yo 3mths, DS#2 is 3 weeks. Just early days I know, but it is tough enough with this age gap. Take your time and enjoy your first child. The first year is such a special time. I had neither the time or the energy to even consider TTC after nine months!

[Mollygirl]

I agree with Mother Hubbard, take your time. There is nothing as special as having your first child, and everything they do.

I found I was ready to think about another when DS was almost two, and we conceived DD straight away and it worked really well.

Try not to be so hard on yourself, 9 mths is still such a baby - waking at night, not yet walking, can't feed themselves....things can change a lot in 6 months, and by 18 months they are doing lots of other things.

You'll know when your ready, or if 1 is enough - everyone is different. Maybe I know a bit what you mean, I would like 3 kids but can't bring myself to go through it all again, and look at others and think, they are happy with 2, or they are coping with 3 kids, and I go back and forth. I figure if I'm not sure I'm not ready for another one.

[mountain mummy]

I always knew all my life that I wanted children. Through circumstance, when I had DS1, I was a single mother, and as much as I enjoyed him, I always had the feeling that he would be the only child I'd have (in my mind, single men were not attracted to single mothers). Obviously, to cut a long story short, I had more children. I have a 3 year age gap between DS1 (Jan 2001) and DD (Feb 2004), a 2 year age gap between DD and DS2 (Mar 2006) and almost 2.5 years til DS3 (July 2008). He is now almost 9 months old and I am desperately trying to convince DP to have another one, but maybe that's because I'm past the #1 to #2 stage

You will know when you're ready, and if you're ready, to have another baby, when the time is right!

[rubibaby]

your little one is still a bubba...enjoy him for now. it is such a beautiful time with your first (or only one) because you are able to devote all your time, energy and attention to them...you may only have one, you may have more but you will know one or the other in time...