Thanks for the replies. It has been getting me down, wondering why and not knowing what to do anymore. I like the idea of putting him outside but knowing him he will scream and probably bang the glass door and throw a tantrum. Will give it a try.

The problem with putting him in his room is its upstairs. That's when he gets violent as I have to put him there. He refuses to move anywhere. Have tried time out in a different room I don't think it's working at the moment.

I think he might be like this because he is bored. We have a one year old baby who needs to nap and he might be getting frustrated staying home on the days he doesn't go to preschool. We've also had some extended family issues that don't affect us but are upsetting. He might be upset about that? I'm not sure.

What do you do as they get older? Taking toys away doesn't work. I do need to stay calm and will work on that. He winds me up then I feel like I have no control after he refuses to cooperate then he hits me when I try to put him in his room. Then I lose my temper.

Any more suggestions would be great as I'm struggling with him at the moment and then it just feels like work instead of fun