Deb, sounds like you have a very strong headed little lady on your hands there.
Good on you for not smacking Gab, I think, especially at this age she is too little to even understand the whole naughty/smack concept. (Remind I said this ok).

Tehya can get quite stubborn too and she was started to headbutt if she is upset or can't get her own way. Tehya is very independant and like to do things for herself. Weetbix and a 16 month old are not the easiest to manage She will crack it if she can't get her own way too. I guess it's just their way of sharing their frustrations at being able to do whtaever they want. Tehya hates going in the pram when we are out and will chuck a wobbly to be out. And... I usually give in..... Silly me.

Perhaps Gab prefers it on her own because that is what she is generally used too??? Especially now Paige isn't with you anymore.

Keep strong Deb, it has to get better