The first night that DD moved into her bed in her room, i decided that if she woke before 12 we would try to resettle her in her room, if it was after 12 then she would come back to our bed. I planned to then increase the time for settling. I really needed a plan, cos i didn't want to be making plans up in the middle of the night.

However, the first night she completely surprised us by sleeping til 3am! She actually began sleeping better in her own bed than when she was in with us.

We have found that cosleeping is not an all or nothing thing. DD moved in to her own room over 18 months ago, and while she mostly sleeps in her own bed all night, we still here the pitter patter of little feet and her crawling in some nights or she will call out but just need a cuddle and be happy to go back to sleep.

DS is in a side car cot and then in our bed from first wakeup, but i am considering trialling the two kids cosleeping together, once he reduces night feeds.
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