The Continuum Concept

[leebee81]

The book sounds really interesting - the website articles have been worth a read, anyway.

[Zee]

Unlike some animals, who need to spot their mother within seconds of the birth and form a kind of identity stamp of her so they can follow her around, it is the other way for humans. A human mother must see and be close to her baby immediately after the birth otherwise an instinct of mourning kicks in because the body assumes a still birth has occurred and then even if the baby is brought back within a couple of minutes, this process has already begun. Bonding and attachment to the baby can be difficult, leading to PND etc. Very interesting.

Sounds like a great book, will have to go check it out!

[Ginger]

mumma B- i've just ordered this book today, looking forward to getting it.
thanks for the refferal
....soon i'll be able to discuss it with you...

[Zee]

I have forgot to look for it!!!

[Matryoshka]

mumma B- i've just ordered this book today, looking forward to getting it.
thanks for the refferal
....soon i'll be able to discuss it with you...

Wonderful Gracie! i really look forward to hearing what you think

I finished the book in recent days, really loved it. It's been great for giving me a bit more confidence and motivation to stay strong in my opinions about baby wearing, co-sleeping and gentle parenting despite all the adversity i face from family about such choices.

I did finally come accross what was a tiny paragraph about homosexuality, and yep she did mention something about it being "caused" by mothering/parenting, but honestly i won't hold that against her. I'd say it was more a case of it being 1975 when homosexuality was seen in a negative light and theories on the "cause" were varied (i've read a lot of bizarre things, even that it was considered an illness until recent years). I'm not sure why she chose to include that, it's not really relevant. She also touches on some other issues including drug abuse and links these back to parenting away from the continuum and lack of the in-arms phase. I think she's a little lacking there in the way of research but once again, i'd say those opinions are a product of the era she's in. We have the gift of being in the current time where we know so much more.

Still on a whole, her experience with the Yequana sounds amazing and i feel greatly benefitted having read about it.

[mgm]

I've heard of this, but haven't read it - it sounds an interesting book.

For anyone who's interested in the connections between evolution and babies' needs, Meredith Small's 'Our Babies Ourselves' is a good (and easy) read - well researched, and she bases her observations on a range of anthropological studies of hunter-gatherer, pre-industrial and western industrialised cultures. I couldn't find it in bookshops here, but got it from Amazon recently. None of the conclusions are incredibly surprising but they are backed up by research (which you can then quote to people who tell you to put your child in a cot and stop breastfeeding them all night!).

[Amie]

Hmm... the book still sounds like it has some great concepts, but I just read this review on amazon and I'm a little turned off now.

I read that review too, and it turned me off a little too! But I suppose, like everything, we need to read it for ourselves and then decide... At the very least though, I agree with the premise. Looking forward to more discussion

[Ginger]

i've finished to book now MummaB. i really enjoyed it and it's actually made me stop using my pram and start using my sling more! i love co-sleeping so i love reading anything that confirms this is a good thing.

[meow]

I did finally come accross what was a tiny paragraph about homosexuality, and yep she did mention something about it being "caused" by mothering/parenting, but honestly i won't hold that against her. I'd say it was more a case of it being 1975 when homosexuality was seen in a negative light and theories on the "cause" were varied (i've read a lot of bizarre things, even that it was considered an illness until recent years). I'm not sure why she chose to include that, it's not really relevant.

Thanks for letting us know- your opinion on it sounds quite right and makes me feel more comfortable about it. I need to read this book when I start having a life and reading again

[HotI]

Just wondering if anybody else has had a chance to read this book lately, and what they thought.

I am looking for some reading matter on attachment parent, particularly in relation to adoption. (adoption of a toddler, not a newborn) Is this book one that looks at that issue at all, or more the usual mum gives birth to baby situation?

I am interested in th book for itself, but at the moment looking to do some more specific reading on attachment parent and adoption.

Thanks,

K

[Ginger]

no kate i don't think this book is what you're looking for.
it talks a lot about the first 6 months (before they're crawling).
maybe 'the science of parenting' would suit you better?
i could check to see if it's got a section on adoption for you if you like? i'm not sure off the top of my head (it's been a while since i read it)

[HotI]

maybe 'the science of parenting' would suit you better?
i could check to see if it's got a section on adoption for you if you like? i'm not sure off the top of my head (it's been a while since i read it)

That would be great. The science of parenting was one on my list, along with Attachment Parenting (dr Sears) and Parenting by Heart.

Have you read any of the others?

Thanks a lot,

k

[Ginger]

ok....there's nothing specifically in the index about adoption, but i would still recommend it as a great general read. it gives you a fantastic understanding of the workings of their brain in relation to emotional intelligence. it is a fantastic book- it has a section on under 5yo that i'm sure would benefit you.
i have not read the other 2 books. have you read 'toddler tactics' by pinky mackay? i have not read it yet but am planning on it soon. maybe that you help?