dealing with the I want / don't want / want it's.....

[RhiChiChi]

With meals maybe more snacks, can you put out a few choices of fruit (ie: apple and orange on a larger plate/platter) and let her take what she wants on her own plate? That way if she cracks it you can point out that SHE chose it not she told you them changed her mind? iYKWIM? I'd probably even consider that with gravy. Leave it off and if she wants it, she can (with help) put it on herself. It sounds like she is trying to assert some independence??

Tantrums, well I'd ignore as much as possible and carry on doing something else with no attention given. if she wants a cuddle, I'd tell her to calm down first then happy to give a cuddle. My DD was the same at this age and I think it is a communication/developmental thing. They can comprehend but just can't verbalized fully yet. This behavior will pass.

Bedtime has been an issue for us with DD from about 18 mths. We had to put the foot down and it was usual bed routine with cuddles. If you refuse cuddles then that is it, no other choice and too bad. Granted we did it when DD was older because we persevered with her changing her mind but it prolonged bedtime and fueled the behaviour.