Because all people are different we all act and respond differently in many circumstances. You and esme have obviously found an appropriate way of communicating with each other. From what you said she understands what is going on now.

I think your doing a great job, and that it is silly to think that she hasn't already started developing a sense of right and wrong.

It's like kids throw things to see what happens. You showed her what happens when she throws a phone. Then when she throws a ball she will find out that that is ok and will slowly work out the norms of the society you live in.

Did that make sense??