Wow, I just googled him and had a brief read of the "changing patterns" plan. I really like his philosophy. I did a similar thing with P when she was 13-14 months old, only she was in her own bed as she never wanted to sleep with me.
Certainly she was angry, but right from the first night I didn't feed her, so perhaps she would've been less 'angry' if I had've? Not sure. At any rate, for us, I settled, cuddled, shushed and patted her for a good couple of hours the first night, slightly less the second, slightly less the third. She was so exhausted after these sessions (as, do beware, she did cry for pretty much the entire time, even with me there with her. Especially with me there even) but after that she was done and dusted.
I agree with his advice not to do this unless you really want to, and not in the first year. It is much easier even now for me to feel ok about having done this with Phoebe when she was 1 than having done the regimented, cold-hearted controlled crying with Natty when she was only 7 months I still regret my actions as a first-time parent, not having my own mind quite enough. Sigh. Live and learn.
Anyhoo, I think it sounds like it could work for you and as I've said I think his philosophy is one I'd be comfortable with, personally.
Good luck!
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