We have never followed a routine. I think a few people are quite scandalised that DS doesn't have a bedtime. He goes to sleep when is tired whether that be 8pm or 11.30. Honestly I much rather this than trying to force him to sleep. It just ends in tears and frustration. Over the past few months I've noticed him settling into his own little routine without any encouragement from me. The hard work does pay off eventually. I've breastfed on demand and DH and I have shared our bed with a miniature bed hog for almost 17 months now. It works for us and I wouldn't change a thing